Sexual Violence Response & Awareness

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MRU Advocates are trained to respond to the needs of those who have been impacted by dating, domestic and sexual violence. Information shared with an Advocate is confidential and available to any MRU student or employee, regardless of when or where the violence occurred. There is no obligation to report.

All appointments are confidential.

  • support and information about resources both on and off-campus
  • academic accommodations 

  • safety planning
  • 
understanding reporting options
  • making a report to MRU


see available appointment times

 

For some people who have been affected by dating, domestic or sexual violence, they may require academic accommodations as they continue with their courses.

Accommodations can be flexible, but could look like:

  • withdrawing with cause from a course

  • getting an extension on an assignment

  • receiving an excused absence

  • switching sections of a class

Accommodations can be accessed through an Advocate. Please click here to make an appointment.

If you choose to report, there are different options available and many factors to consider.  

A support advocate can assist you in understanding each option so that you can make an informed decision and if you choose, submit the report. This is a separate process to a criminal report. Please click here to make an appointment.

Talking to someone can be helpful in managing the impacts of dating, domestic and sexual violence. There are several options of trained people you can speak to on and off-campus. These are all confidential supports.

MRU Advocate
MRU Advocates provide confidential information and specialized support to those who have been affected by dating, domestic, and/or sexual violence. Please click here to make an appointment or call 403.440.5623.


ccasa on Campus
Calgary Communities Against Sexual Abuse (CCASA) is at MRU to provide support to members of the MRU community every other Thursday at the Wellness Centre. CCASA specializes in speaking to people who have been affected by sexual assault and childhood sexual abuse.

To book an appointment phone the CCASA support and information line 403.237.5888 and inform them that you are an MRU community member. The appointment will take place in Wellness Services, U216 (proceed to Student Counselling desk on your right to let them know you are there.)

Student Counselling Services (SCS)

Appointments can be scheduled for support with managing crisis, stress and trauma. To book an appointment call 403.440.6362 or drop by Wellness Services, U216 (proceed to Student Counselling desk on your right).

Walk-in appointments are available every afternoon, Monday to Friday, beginning at 1:00 p.m. SCS recommend that clients arrive at 12:50 p.m. to be placed on the walk-in list for the afternoon. If this is not an option, please arrive during the afternoon no later than 3:30 p.m. to find out if openings are still available.
Off Campus
Calgary Communities Against Sexual Abuse
Calgary Communities Against Sexual Abuse (ccasa) is a local sexual assault service agency that works to support people affected by sexual assault or abuse. Their support and information line can be reached at 403.237.5888. This line is available as immediate support or an intake for services. 

Alberta's One Line for Sexual Violence

1.866.403.8000

The Alberta One Line is a province-wide central platform for sexual assault support services. Our private, toll-free talk-text-and chat service connects individuals who have been impacted by sexual violence to specialized support such as clinicians and police.

Private and available throughout Alberta

Call or text if you:

  • are affected by sexual violence
  • know someone who needs help
  • need a list of services and supports in you area

 

Family Violence Info Line
310.1818 - Provides support and information about family violence programs and services. Available in more than 170 languages.

  • a 24 hour, toll - free helpline in Alberta for anyone experiencing family violence or abuse, or who knows someone that has questions about family violence
  • an online chat feature (12 p.m. to 8 p.m.)

Call anytime if you:

  • are affected by family violence
  • need help with safety planning
  • know someone who needs help
  • need a list of services and supports in your area

Ensure safety and that your friend has a safe place to stay. If there is immediate danger, phone the police 911 or campus security 403.440.5900.

Some key messages that can be helpful are:

  • I believe you
  • this was not your fault
  • you have the right to set your own limits in any relationship
  • I am here to listen
  • you are not to blame for someone else's behaviour
  • violence is never okay or justifiable

Things to avoid:

  • do not point out things that they could have done differently to prevent the assault or abuse from happening
  • do not question why they did or did not do certain things
  • do not ask that they tell you what happened
  • do not give advice

Offer options about what resources are available (see support options on this webpage). Take care of yourself. It can be very difficult to hear that someone that you care about has been hurt or abused. After receiving a disclosure and supporting, check in with how you are feeling and what you might be needing to support yourself.

Beyond the Cliff
A TED Talk delivered by Laura Van Dernoot Lipsky on caring for yourself while caring for others who are managing the impacts of trauma. 

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Dating, domestic and sexual violence can be a traumatic experience. It is common to be affected academically and within work. You may notice a range of physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual impacts. There is no right or wrong way to feel and recovery takes time.

What can you do to heal? 

If and when you are ready, reach out and get support emotionally. Many find talking to others helpful. A support advocate is here to listen and discuss referrals and resources.

Practice Self-Care

Self-care is extremely important when coping with trauma. It is important to find ways that support and soothe yourself.  

Some strategies for self-care include:

  • drinking water
  • eating healthy
  • spending time with friends you trust
  • sleeping
  • colouring
  • listening to music
  • exercise

Methods of Self-Care
Wellness services also offer a series of workshops to bolster your self-care strategies.  

Self-Care Resources

Self-Care is Not Optional
- Marcia Baczynski
4 Ways to Overcome Self-Blame After a Sexual Assault
- Sian Ferguson
5-4-3-2-1 grounding exercise
Nightmare protocol
A Toolkit for Survivors During COVID-19

It is never too late to report sexual assault to the police. It is normal to take some time to consider if reporting to the police is the right option for you. For more information about reporting to the police, book an appointment with an advocate.

If you would like to report to the police, there are a few different options:

  1. You or a support person can phone the Calgary Police Service: 403.266.1234 and a Constable can come to where you are to take the report.
  2. You can go to your local district office and make a report. If the district is particularly busy they may not be able to take the report at that moment. It is possible to schedule an appointment at your local district online. Go to Calgary Police Service and select Schedule Your Appointment.
  3. With an MRU Advocate, you can phone CPS and have a Constable come to the MRU campus where you can make the report in a private location. 

The Reporting Process

There is no guarantee that a criminal report will lead to charges, a trial or a guilty finding, even though you know they are.  

Within the initial reporting process, the police officer will take your statement. Often they will ask you to tell them what happened as you remember it and then they will ask clarifying questions. The officers will want to make sure they have as many details as possible, so at times these questions may feel very personal; however, these details are necessary to complete a proper investigation. They may ask for a written statement as well. They will provide you with the means to do this written statement, however, if you had previously written out a statement and wished to provide this to the officers you can as well. Throughout making this report, you can take breaks at any time. 

The report that you make will be given a file number. Keep the file number and the name and badge number of the constable in your records so that if you wish to inquire about the report the police can easily locate it within the system. 

What is a Safety Plan? A safety plan is a plan that you create to keep you and your family as safe as possible during, while leaving, and after an abusive relationship. A safety plan is meant to consider what risk factors exist and try to mitigate those risk factors. 

It is also important to remember that abuse is never okay and it is the responsibility of the person who is causing harm to stop using abusive behaviours.   If you are wanting support in creating a personalized safety plan, help is available: 

On-Campus
Make an appointment with an MRU Dating, Domestic, and Sexual Violence Support Advocate here

Off-Campus 
Family Violence Info Line 
310-1818

Family Violence Helpline
403.234.7233

 

Because everyone’s situation is different, there is no one size fits all safety plan. Things to consider include: 

Identifying a Safe(r) Place
A safe place is somewhere that you (and your children) can go if there is a violent episode within the home where you are safe or safer. This could be a certain room in the home, or a neighbour, friend or family member’s place that you can go to.   

Creating a Safety Pack
A safety pack is a bag that you can grab if you need to flee quickly. It includes necessities, such as; a change of clothes, important documentation and money.  


Safety Planning While Living with an Abusive Partner

  • Identify places in the home that are safer- where there are no weapons or objects that can be used as weapons and there is access to an exit if you need to leave.

  • If there are any children in the home, teach them to get out of the room where the abuse is occurring and to call 911 out of view of the person causing harm. 

  • If you drive, habitually back into your parking space. 

  • If you create a safety pack, hide it well, as knowledge of a safety pack will alert the abuser and put you in danger. 


Safety Planning While Leaving

  • You can request support from the police, as well as local support services

  • Make a plan for what documents, and personally significant items that you want to take with you. 

  • Consider taking half of the shared funds with you, open a separate bank account, and put them in there. Document your spending if you are asked about it at a later date. 

  • Consider applying for a protection order (such as a Restraining Order or an Emergency Protection Order) 

  • Leaving an abusive relationship is statistically a time when people are more at risk for the violence to escalate.

 

Safety Planning if Left and Abusive Relationship

  • If necessary, change your phone number and keep it on a private setting 

  • Vary your daily routine; where you shop, walk and spend time 

  • If possible, enhance the security of your home; change locks, install motion-detecting lights, ensure windows have locks, install security systems. 

  • Consider the pros and cons of informing your employer and having them engaged in your safety plan. The Occupational Health and Safety Act is meant to provide protection to workers who are survivors of domestic violence; however, this does not guarantee that you will not face discrimination as a result of disclosing.  

  • Save and document any contact with former partner

  • If you have to meet your former partner do so in a public setting

 

For an interactive safety plan, go here.

 


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